Table for Two, Separate Checks

The ultimate define the relationship (dtr for short) comes the moment the server delivers the check...together, separate, he pays, she pays? So many options. While Josef and I haven't been at this particular crossroads for quite some time - it is the best way I can think of to describe our current place in life. We are blessed to have entered into a commitment with God that will keep us at this table together forever. Lately, however, I've been wondering if God remembers that. I don't mean to imply he's pulling us apart. Rather, Josef and I seem to be getting different "bills" from the Lord, or callings on our hearts that are different from each other. I often have to reassure myself,"God knows we're married,He told us to get married, He surely has a perfect plan for us together." Yet, I'm still waiting...

God doesn't completely separate everything. Just like the bowl of queso or the brownie sundae, he gives us equal responsibility and direction in some areas. The most common thought we share is that God is definitely preparing us for something and more specifically preparing us to choose His way or the world's way. Sounds like an easy answer, after all, this is what brought us together in the first place. But as many who have been in this position can atest, it is often the hardest. Inevitably it never comes in the way we think it will and because the question is different, we suddenly second-guess our previously prepared answer. Double sided coins and forks in the road seem to sit between us and the perfect plan we trust is there. "What if's" have become our new introduction to almost any conversation in our home and our chosen path for the future seems to be all we think about. The positive side: all these different ideas floating around has made us more open than we've ever been to what He has for us - because goodness knows we're not attached to any one thing for more than 5 minutes. With open hands, we continue to ask what He has for us and trust He will ignite our hearts for what burns in His. This isn't the first time we've felt this way and it surely won't be the last, but we keep faithfully asking: "Check please."